After all those leading roles in every play during high school,is it any wonder that my sister went on to get a Bachelor of Fine Art in theater and is now a professional actor and Drama Teacher (both at a high school and at her own school for actors- link here to see her school http://njactors.org/faculty.html)
My brother's growth got un-stunted after my family moved to St. Charles and he got to have a real bedroom. He is now 6'5" and is the band teacher/director at Camdenton High School at the Lake of the Ozarks in Missouri.
If you have read my blog, you will know, that after a (very brief) attempt to major in Music at the University of Missouri in Kansas City, Mo, I ended up becoming a Psychotherapist. I actually have a double major in Music and psychology-but now I only use my music degree to write myself mnemonic devices.
So how did those two end up in the arts and I end up in Social Work?
Remember the great nurture versus nature question? Well this is where is plays out.
I am a big believer in attachment theory. John Bowlby postulated (Invented? Came up with?) attachment theory watching chimps or apes or something. He noticed that the little chimps/apes/monkeys sought the grown-ups in order to avoid being some lion's lunch and to be fed, bathed and kept free of vermin. He also noticed that the baby primates were choosing their own mother over the other adults. I don't know about you, but one monkey looks pretty much the same as another monkey to me. And, lo and behold, the Mama monkeys could discern their own babies, too!
Bowlby also noticed that the babies didn't just seek out their own personal parent money when danger was present or they needed a snack or to have nits picked off their back. The monkeys went to their moms for a hug after a fight with their monkey friends or they got a monkey boo-boo after falling out of a tree or something. The monkeys wanted cuddles as much as they wanted bananas!
From monkeys to humans, observation and research proved that people needed someone to attach to as well. You must have heard about the importance of bonding with your baby. Bonding is how you feel about that small wrinkled amorphous blob of a person that just emerged from your body. Bonding is one sided. The small amorphous pointed headed creature suddenly turns into the cutest smartest funniest being who ever walked the earth and everyone must see this most incredible baby you created. (No really! They must! You have the stacks of pictures and videos and Facebook pages and websites just to prove that no other baby even comes close...) That's bonding, It's pretty one-sided.
Attachment goes both ways. Bonding is what makes you want to nurture you amazing creation. Attachment makes your amazing creation think you are pretty great, too. Attachment creates the type of nurturing you get.
I could go on all day about attachment theory and what happens to screw it up and how other researchers found differing types of attachment etc. But What I really want t say is that being attached creates good nurture and nurture brings out our nature.
I don't think the argument of nurture being more important than nature (or vice versa) is stated correctly. I think nurture allows us to reach our own natural potential for intelligence, talent, drive ability to choose and ability to love and be loved.
In my most amazing family, we were allowed to become our nature and chose our path accordingly.
Enough for today. Tune in next time for more on attachment and less boring stuff, as well.
I am a big believer in attachment theory. John Bowlby postulated (Invented? Came up with?) attachment theory watching chimps or apes or something. He noticed that the little chimps/apes/monkeys sought the grown-ups in order to avoid being some lion's lunch and to be fed, bathed and kept free of vermin. He also noticed that the baby primates were choosing their own mother over the other adults. I don't know about you, but one monkey looks pretty much the same as another monkey to me. And, lo and behold, the Mama monkeys could discern their own babies, too!
Bowlby also noticed that the babies didn't just seek out their own personal parent money when danger was present or they needed a snack or to have nits picked off their back. The monkeys went to their moms for a hug after a fight with their monkey friends or they got a monkey boo-boo after falling out of a tree or something. The monkeys wanted cuddles as much as they wanted bananas!
From monkeys to humans, observation and research proved that people needed someone to attach to as well. You must have heard about the importance of bonding with your baby. Bonding is how you feel about that small wrinkled amorphous blob of a person that just emerged from your body. Bonding is one sided. The small amorphous pointed headed creature suddenly turns into the cutest smartest funniest being who ever walked the earth and everyone must see this most incredible baby you created. (No really! They must! You have the stacks of pictures and videos and Facebook pages and websites just to prove that no other baby even comes close...) That's bonding, It's pretty one-sided.
Attachment goes both ways. Bonding is what makes you want to nurture you amazing creation. Attachment makes your amazing creation think you are pretty great, too. Attachment creates the type of nurturing you get.
I could go on all day about attachment theory and what happens to screw it up and how other researchers found differing types of attachment etc. But What I really want t say is that being attached creates good nurture and nurture brings out our nature.
I don't think the argument of nurture being more important than nature (or vice versa) is stated correctly. I think nurture allows us to reach our own natural potential for intelligence, talent, drive ability to choose and ability to love and be loved.
In my most amazing family, we were allowed to become our nature and chose our path accordingly.
Enough for today. Tune in next time for more on attachment and less boring stuff, as well.
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